By Edward S. Brown,
want to put to rest the mistaken virtues of a balanced life. The illusory
life of everything completed, everyone is happy and you make the most
of multi-tasking with countless "balls in the air". Every
self-help book, consultant and yoga guru speaks about the means of
de-stressing and finding a balanced life. Faced with the many challenges
life throws our way, we are on a relentless quest to have it both ways.
We want material success and security and yet put our focus and energy
in places farthest from our goals. Proponents of the "you can
have it all" school of thought rarely stop to count the cost for
the desirable things in life. Every endeavor comes with a price on
the front end and has a downside. The professional skills that necessitate
climbing corporate ladders and founding great institutions, do not
lend themselves to warm, caring, loving parenting skills. James Allen
said, "A man is what he thinks about all day." Loosely translated,
you get out of life what you focus on most intensely. How can you be
great at a thing with unfocused attention? Multi-taskers boast about
being able to juggle several projects at once claiming victory for
its success. However, where is the success? Can you claim that you
have achieved a level of excellence? Of course, you cannot!
Since the dawn of humanity, every accomplishment, contribution or great feat
occurred through a heavy price and great sacrifice. There is no balance associated
with focused attention. By its very nature, it is slanted towards the object
of its affection. The price for a focused endeavor requires time, resources
and at time-friendships, whether it is building empires or being a supportive
parent. Decide what you want and stick to the plan. In addition, most of
all pay the whole price without complaint.
Ultimately, focus on the things you want and pay minimal attention at attempting
to be all things to everybody. The selfishness of individuals is endless
and you invariably lose yourself in the process. Even if you could have it
all, you cannot have it at the same time. Every choice comes with a price.
Brown's Declaration of Independence:
love being single, because it keeps me focused and allows unlimited
I have no desire for children, because they could never live up to
my expectations and we all would be frustrated and disappointed.
look for mutually beneficial relationships and reject any notion of
long-suffering in any form.
individual has the right to worship what she may as long as she does
not inflict others with dogma.
power of my will is my religion and I measure my success by my accomplishments.
like people, but loving human nature would surely lead to my downfall.
are either, for me or against me, and I won't forget either party.
have found freedom through the infatuation of my passion for ideas.
most would agree that collaborations are ideal, those who have willed
themselves to power have dominated throughout history
the end, I hope my view of the world helps others feel as free as I